It’s been a while since I posted. I apologize for that, I was on my honeymoon with my wife of 13 days.
I’ve been putting a lot of thought into the subject of marriage lately, and while we’re still in the beginning stages of our marriage, so far it’s not nearly as difficult as people would have you think. Yes, there are adjustments, and no, your new spouse won’t always do things the way you’re used to, but if you’re willing to put forth some effort you will find it to be well worth it.
One unsettling thing I’ve heard far too often is the concept that marriage is somehow outdated. More and more people are seeing it as a waste of time. Some people are against marriage because they’re reluctant to make that weighty of a commitment, and others simply fail to see the importance of such a thing.
This really bugs me, guys. I’m not saying that we need to rush into marriages to satisfy the societal expectations others have for us. It’s just that too many people have the wrong idea about marriage. Everyone seems to be looking at it the wrong way.
Marriage is not there to control or restrict. It is not there to keep people in check or make our lives miserable. Marriage is not a way to improve your relationship with someone or make sure they never leave.
Do you want to know what marriage is? It’s a commitment. It’s a promise. I know, that’s super scary and our society is so against that kind of thing, but it’s true. When you marry someone you promise them that you will be there for them no matter what. You promise them that when problems arise you will both work together to fix them. You promise them that you will help them carry their burdens. It is a partnership in the sincerest form of the word.
The underlying reason that marriage is encountering so much resistance (from what I’ve seen and heard) is that people are afraid to commit to something for the rest of their lives. Because of how we are living in the world today, we are used to just throwing something away or replacing it when there’s a problem with it. I fear that this mentality has bled through into our interpersonal relationships. So many couples, when they discover they disagree on something or have an argument, decide to just throw it away.
Can we stop it please? There’s something to be said for fixing issues that come your way. So stop running. Stop giving up. It’s honestly a little bit pathetic.
Now, don’t get me wrong. There are definitely times when it is reasonable and prudent to end a marriage relationship (abuse and infidelity to name a couple). But in general, when it’s simply a conflict of opinion? We can do a lot better than we are, guys.
When you marry someone you love and care about, the both of you put everything you are into each other. You build a life together and when it’s just the two of you, you’re safe from all of the stress and frustration of the world. You can deal with problems more effectively, and you have someone to lean on when you’re feeling weak.
Rant’s almost done, I promise. Just think about this for a little bit. Is it outdated to want support in everything you do? To need a shoulder to lean on and a hand to hold? Is it outdated to crave stability and assurance that someone will be there for you in everything you do?
I don’t think so.
We all need someone to turn to. So if you have someone you love and never want to lose, then why not make that commitment? Yeah, it takes trust. That’s kind of a given. It’s a pretty scary thing. I know that. But it’s worth it.
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